Divorce advice for women is plentiful, but beware of what you listen to.

Divorce advice for women can be confusing. It's not "happily ever after," after all. Surviving divorce is one thing, but living to tell about it is another.

Divorce brings many things to cope with. Discover some helpful tips from someone that's been there.

Instructions

1.     Get a good family law attorney first. Know who to listen to. While divorce advice for women is plentiful, beware of what you take.

The advice you really need is from a good family law attorney. Find a lawyer you can feel safe with. The two of you are a team and if you don't vibe, find another one.

2.     Listen to your attorney. Do everything your attorney or judge tells you to do during the divorce.

Advice from others about a judgment not being fair to you can often lead to some very poor choices.

If you make the mistake of doing what you want during divorce proceedings, you’re setting yourself up for failure.

3.     Stay clean and clear. Be a parent first. Don't live on the wild side during your divorce. Advice for women to just get out and meet others, or pull "all nighters," is not wise.

Stay away from bar scenes, overnight escapades, drug use, or anything else that belittles you as a parent.

4.     Stay calm in court. Don't blurt out or cause confusion. This makes a judge uneasy and a lawyer angry.

If you do, chances are, you are not going to get what you ask for. People that do this appear to be unpredictable and sporadic, which is not good in a custody battle.

5.     Don't demean the other parent in front of the child. Keep the parent relationship open. If you have children or are going through a custody battle, don't demean the other parent.

Relay this to anyone in your home. Kids have a way of figuring things out for themselves. Remember, the kids aren't divorcing anyone.

6.     Turn to true friends. Open up and share with them.

True friends listen, cry, scream, hug, and give advice with your best interest in mind. You don't have to worry about them running around telling your personal business.

7.     Realize that you go through an array of feelings before, during and after divorce. Advice for women to just get over it, move on, or the like is not going to help your heart.

A cycle of hurt, betrayal, anger, grief, loss, and worry is natural after divorce. The good news is it will get better for you with every passing day.

8.     Take time before jumping back into a serious relationship. Take time even when you think you don't need it.

One of the mistakes newly divorced people make is to jump right back into a serious relationship. Get through the feelings of the last one. Allow some time for the hurt of divorce to heal.

Tips & Warnings

• If the First Baptist Church in your area has a Divorce Care Program, join. This program offers hope and help for hurting men and women that are new to divorce.
• As time passes, it does get easier. You will wake up one morning to find yourself not feeling anything for your ex.
• The best divorce advice for women, or anyone, is from a family law attorney.
• Tell your lawyer everything.
• Keep good records. You can use them in court later on, if needed.
• Once in court, tell the truth. If you are caught in a lie, nothing else you say matters. No advice in the world can get you out of that one.

By an eHow Contributor

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